I’ve been thinking. Sometimes that’s a scary thing.
Ever since the day that inspired my post, “Ladies, Let’s Get Real,” I’ve been thinking about community. About how easy it is to feel alone in a crowd these days.
I’ll admit, I’m a professional loner, Oh, I connect sometimes…on my own terms.
That’s not good.
What’s worse, is I know there are many like me. People who are good actresses…who can act like everything is fine when it’s not. People who hold others at arm’s length.
That’s not good either.
(Lest anyone be truly worried at this point, everything IS ok with me, really…I’ve just been thinking a lot about the course of my life and the ups and downs.)
But back to the scary things that go on inside my brain.
Over the last four weeks, several events have taken place to rock my world, and not in a good way. Tragic events that starkly point to the reality of loneliness in our culture today. Events that scream loudly, “God made us to be relational. Everyone needs to feel a sense of belonging!”
Ladies, we need each other.
Everyone, no matter who we are, needs a group of people with whom we feel safe to share the ugly things of life.
We all need friends who will drop everything in a crisis to help.
We all need to be the friend who will drop anything in a crisis to help.
But how do we get to that point? How do we find our tribe, so to speak? And how do we help other lonely people find theirs?
I wish I had the answers. I wish I could wave a magic wand and make everyone feel loved and accepted.
But I can’t.
However, I can do something, and so can you.We were created to be relational. Let's live that way.Click To Tweet
What can we do?
- Invite someone to coffee and just talk.
- Be on the lookout for people who are alone in your crowds. Make it a point to smile and say hi.
- Invite and outsider into your inner circle of friends.
- Mentor a younger woman.
- Ask an older woman to mentor you.
- Gather people with similar interests and pursue those interests together.
For those of us who are somewhat introverted, even these simple tasks can seem overwhelming, but they’re necessary. Even we introverts were not meant to live life in a vacuum, even though it might be comfortable that way.
I long for a day when we never hear of loneliness in the church. And while it’s true that the problem of loneliness will not be solved until the lonely take steps to connect, the rest of us can make it easier on them by making connecting a less scary prospect.